Question of respect and room descriptions

CountVladDracula · Joined: 07 Oct 2010 Posts: 8309 Location: USA - NY

Tonight someone came into my room and looked to be a legitimate role player. They put their text in (()) and said that two of their friends would be joining them. I saw that their KB was in the high 3000s and one of my friends crashed so I asked them if they could please reduce the KB to 1,700 or so. They said sure. As they were lowering their KB their friends came in, each roughly around the same weight as the first.

First one in this group did a very long post describing the stench of a corpse coming from her and some other unpleasant details. So I asked her if she noticed the part of my room description where I asked for supernatural beings to be discrete. She said "Yeah. What of it?"

Before I could reply my friend who had crashed came back and again asked all the new people if they would please lower their KB to 1,700 or so.

One of them replied with "We've lowered our KB as far as we're going to. Either respect us or we're leaving!" like they were doing us a favor being there.

Here's a question though... If you are in someone else's room and the room owner's friend crashes because the KB is a bit on the high side how is it disrespectful to ask that the KB be lowered? In fact isn't it disrespectful to ignore the rules of another person's room?

I said in plain English that respect is a two way street and to please respect my wishes as room owner. (I used the word please).

One person told me that I could go do something to myself in another language (as if I don't have access to google translate) and the first one who had entered changed his tune entirely from being polite and agreeable and suggested I could do something to a certain part of his anatomy.

My friend and I had been trying to be polite because they did separate in and out of character. They did post detailed entrance posts (very long ones, I might add but they didn't really fit for a realistic Victorian setting...)

What do you consider proper etiquette when going into a new RP room? Also is it just me or has it gotten worse with new role players seeing the word role play in a room description and ignoring all else written there?

I try to be open to newbies. And I was happy that the first player spoke in brackets and told me their friends were coming. The first player seemed willing to bend to my request that they lower their KB until their friends showed up...
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Manathayria · Joined: 11 Mar 2008 Posts: 265 Location: USA

I think it's rather disrespectful of them to avoid dropping their KBs... I have several very heavy KB outfits, if I walk into a room that requests low KB, I'll either drop the room while I par down the outfit(s) to ensure that they're low enough to be allowed into the room, or I'll ask for a few moments to drop down the KB on the character before I continue.

If it's in the room description, or someone that identifies themselves as a mod tells you to drop something, or asks that something stops/changes, it is a matter of respect to follow their instructions. If you don't like the request or won't follow it, you should be able to respectfully explain the reason you won't do it and either work it out with them if it's something that's not crashing other players, or change it/leave without starting a fight.

I think if we want to RP in public, and outside of our own rooms, we need to take into account that some people cannot handle the higher KB rooms/outfits. Truthfully, I think I'm usually in lower KB outfits when in my own room (because it is high KB) as I know people will have issues with both high KB items and room trying to load at the same time.

There's no real reason not to have a few different outfits around that are low KB for the various rooms, with some higher KB outfits for your own room or with your friends that can handle the 'heavier' outfits.

Kind of a side note:
Oddly.. the person that came in, and the two that joined sound like the little gangster wannabes that one of the marines met while working as a recruiter. He spoke with a guy that was alone outside one of the stores, the guy was rather agreeable, and spoke openly with him, even indicating he'd be interested in joining. Then his friends joined him from inside one of the stores, with his 'friends' there, they immediately turned to what I refer to as 'pack mentality' their friends are there so they think they have more influence and can do a lot more than normal.... the confrontation ended with them challenging the marine, he essentially told them to bring it. A nearby security guard started laughing at them apparently... and the kids eventually walked off looking like puppies with their tails between their legs.

KidCarnival · Joined: 11 Nov 2008 Posts: 1239 Location: Austria

This isn't just a roleplay room issue. People should read room rules, no matter what room they visit, and either accept them or go to a room that suits them better.
Especially kb sizes are all over the place; some rooms have a 1500 kb limit, others allow up to 3000 kb. It's not like ALL rooms "discriminate" high kb outfits.

I frequently have people, not just n00bs, enter my rooms (all have the "common sense" rules as default - show manners, no chat speak, no animated wings/tails/laggy stuff, no voiceboxes/music, kb limit; if RP also a short scenario info). Once they load and have pretty much EVERYTHING the room rules don't allow - like wings, tails, voiceboxes that trigger on every word they say - I usually ask "What do the room rules say about (vb, wings, tails)?" and the answer I get more often than not is "lololol idk didn't read the rules, i don't care". So I don't care for them to be in my room either and boot.

To me, it's common sense to respect the room owner's wishes. It's their room, so who am I to tell them what they can do or not?
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MMalaray · Joined: 07 Jan 2010 Posts: 52 Location: Sweden

Simple reply to people who wont drop KB's is this, im sorry but you will be leaving, i hate to do this but people are crashing, i respect your decision, please respect mine (hit boot button). Your room, your rules, if you dont read about the room and get booted for breaching rules or refusing to follow the rules then its your own fault....
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