Socializing and Finding Friends

SatisfactionMachine · Joined: 18 Feb 2010 Posts: 70 Location: USA

I've met most of my friends in a friend of friend / group combo.

Most of my close friends have very small groups with their closest friends. By being in small groups, it is easier to have real communication with someone you don't know very well instead of fleeting comments here or there, like you might make in a very large group.

EDIT: Come to think of it, I joined in late '07 and started with two or three friends that I knew in 'rl.' People who went to school with me and such. They're quite the social butterflies, so before I knew it they were introducing me to people on a regular basis. Kind of like wingmen, haha. I know that sounds dumb but eh. :: shrugs :: That's how I made my first friends around here.
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Merp · Joined: 04 Jan 2010 Posts: 302 Location: USA - NY

Imvu is filled with fakes though. Rolling Eyes

Kate · Joined: 07 May 2010 Posts: 3459

Where is the reality in the poll?
Honestly, I know almost everyone on my buddy list.
There are only very few users I chat to that I've never actually met.
Back in 2005-2007 you could have a decent conversation with a stranger here, but not anymore.
Nowadays IMVU is full of children pretending to be adults and what not.
I haven't found any real friends on IMVU in years.
There were some people I thought were decent, but at some point they always showed their true self and turned out to be real psychopaths.
Most people on here just pretend to be something they're not.
I've met so many of those two-faced "fakes", as Tara called them, that I just don't bother anymore.

QueenSlayDrakul · Joined: 08 Oct 2009 Posts: 159 Location: USA - NY

hoi · Joined: 01 Dec 2006 Posts: 2087 Location: Sweden

I guess the reason to why it was easier to make friends in client back in 07 was because there were less rooms and less people, at least if you were in the teenage rooms. So you were more than likely to bump into the same people over and over again, and in time become friends.

Now it's just so many god damn rooms and people, it's very rare that I bump into someone twice.
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ZephyTom · Joined: 19 Aug 2007 Posts: 180 Location: Australia

I have not made any friends from groups or forums. I do participate in the forums (nearly always this forum) from time to time but I wouldn't say people on the forums are my friends, but they are friendly.

My longterm standing friends were met in 'Chat Now' and occasionally in Chat Rooms.

In Chat Rooms I found myself befriending a fair few who would chat with me once but never chat again. However with Chat Now we often had chats afterwards as they were either new or disliked more than 2 people talks.

I currently have 562 friends on here and I'd say about 20 talk to me on a monthly basis, through IMVU or other means.

Kaii · Joined: 05 Apr 2007 Posts: 69 Location: USA - RI

Copha · Joined: 15 May 2010 Posts: 433 Location: Australia

I actually first started IMVU before 2008, maybe 2007, I'm not sure.
Though I do remember that even though I was what you call, a 'noob', I had the time of my life and to me, most users were decent enough to have a conversation with.
IMVU has changed a lot and I definitely agree that it's getting harder and harder to find genuine people these days.
I'm sure they're somewhere, but I'm finding it less and less common with the client.
The forums have amazing people, but like someone else mentioned before, it's harder to befriend someone through posts, as you don't get the same feeling as chatting with them real time.
I guess you could take it to the client, but I think it's just more difficult to start it off.

If we can't find friends, we could all just band together :c
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Polystyrene · Joined: 07 Jun 2006 Posts: 20073 Location: Australia

Mostly I become friends with people through the forums, but also through groups and through the dev community, occasionally in chat. This week I actually met up with two IMVU friends for the first time in rl Smile

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Diamondz · Joined: 23 Apr 2007 Posts: 2866 Location: USA - WA

During my first couple of years on here (07-09) I usually made friends thru the Chat Now feature. I quit using it for a while then went back to using Chat Now until they took it away. I've also made friends from a handful of random friend requests, from forums, from groups, and from the Find A Friend feature when looking for people with similar interests or if their page looked interesting. I've never met any of my IMVU friends in real life, although a few wanted to meet (nope, not gonna go that route, although I do have 3 or 4 friends I've really wanted to meet in real but it just hasn't been possible). I did have, at one time, 2 people I knew in real life who joined IMVU to try it out (one got rid of their account and the other one I dumped due to some real life issues).
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Fantasises · Joined: 14 Oct 2009 Posts: 954 Location: Singapore

there isn't such a thing that all the good friends have packed up their bags and left. people are people. some make good friends, some make lousy ones. those who have left aren't exactly your BFF and those that come in aren't that bad either. it's just that most of the time, those people who come online just want something from you or are just not looking to spend too much time with you. Ironically, in forums, the people there are more willing to have a conversation with you than in chat ^_^
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xXVGXx · Joined: 13 May 2010 Posts: 301 Location: Egypt

Fantasises said :
there isn't such a thing that all the good friends have packed up their bags and left. people are people. some make good friends, some make lousy ones. those who have left aren't exactly your BFF and those that come in aren't that bad either. it's just that most of the time, those people who come online just want something from you or are just not looking to spend too much time with you. Ironically, in forums, the people there are more willing to have a conversation with you than in chat
I agree with you and it is really hard to find a real friend just online , I have some awesome people I got to know through the net but I don't take it to best friend levels till we really meet
I don't say that all are bad or fake but person has to be careful with his emotions and heart . I respect everyone and treat all in a nice way but friendship is quiet a different issue

LeonTheDriver · Joined: 28 Sep 2008 Posts: 243 Location: United Kingdom

Came here in 08 ,at that time it was still much easier to make friends (most people i still know here came from back then ) than it is now . I would blame the increasing amount of AP content for changing that but that's just me .

These days it's difficult to even get into let alone make friends in most rooms since many of them have either become strip clubs and whorehouses or are exclusively for the members of some online family.
Yes there were families a few years ago as well but they weren't nearly as strict with who they allowed in their rooms as they are now .

People are getting more and more distant from each other around here these days,you get these groups of people,families and what not who isolate themselves from all others except a select few .
It may not be a huge problem right now but i'm sure that it will be one day.

JinzoCrash · Joined: 02 Apr 2011 Posts: 1672 Location: USA - TX

Well, imvu's a more "paranoid" place these days.
People getting grief reported left and right, items vanishing from their inventories making them wonder if aquaintances may have done it, homepages being reported after years of no problems, userpics with nothing AP getting reported, rooms being reported..

...combine the flagging hell with every release having more things break and imvu running worse, and all the unmoderated public hangouts being closed down by imvu...

...people are just holing up, both for their own safety and to be somewhere "solid" amidst the sea of all these rugs getting pulled out from underneath our feet constantly.
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KingIonTrueLove · Joined: 07 Apr 2007 Posts: 155 Location: USA - OR

I often meet most my friends on chat rooms, and the occasional shopper that becomes a fan of my products. But eh i even add the random adds, and usually eventually i get around to chatting with even the friends i don't know. Razz

I'm just very friendly ^_^

Though i probably should clear out the random guest account adds that are spammers, but my list is way to big now, so i probably will never clear it in fear i accidentally delete someone else. If i get spammed ill just delete as they spam Razz

But all of you are free to add me if you wish, just note I'm not always on imvu even when I'm on imvu... I AFK sleep with my rp family ^_^ -hands out cupcakes to all-
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